Living a happy, healthy lifestyle involves being able to set and meet goals, whether they relate to health, work, creative projects or relationships. But for many of us there’s something that stops us achieving our goals. There’s a little voice that tells us we’ll never make it, and the voice is hard to avoid, because it’s inside our own heads.
Are you always talking yourself out of success? As you start to set goals for yourself, are you already making excuses as to why you might not reach them? Do you doubt your own determination and ability to carry things through?
If this sounds like you, you need to change the way you respond to your doubts and fears. Instead of believing that negative narrative, use positive self-talk to counter the negativity and overcome anxious thoughts.
Using Positive Self-Talk to Conquer Any Goal
Are you initially filled with excitement when you set goals for yourself? Then plagued by self-doubt and self-defeating thoughts that stop you in your tracks before you even get started?
It can be difficult to make the most of your life when you’re constantly talking yourself out of being a success. It’s frustrating and discouraging to have an inner dialogue with yourself where you convince yourself things aren’t going to work out. Many of us, in fact, don't even hear the inner dialogue. All we know is that we don't have the confidence to stick to our plans and reach our goals.
There is another way. Changing your thoughts will change your actions. And changing your actions will change your results.
Positive self-talk is an effective way to set goals and ensure that you stick to them, even if you have never been able to before.
The way this works is that you decide what goal is important to you, and then you plan the logistics of how you are going to attain this goal. When self-doubt starts kicking in, you will respond with affirmations that prove your success without surrendering to the negative pressure.
Re-Programming Your Mind
Affirmations are essentially positive statements that re-program your mind for the positive. The moment you have a self-defeating thought, counter the negative with a motivating statement. An example of a positive affirmation is: "I am worthy of great success," or "I’m capable of reaching my goal." What this does is replace negativity with thoughts that will help you move towards your goals instead of further away from them.
Positive self-talk is easier to implement than you might think. You may not be aware of the severity of the negative dialogue currently within your mind. However, once you begin with positive self-talk, you will realize that you are self-sabotaging the goals you set for yourself from the minute that you make them. This process can open your eyes to exactly how much this inner conversation has been interfering with your life. You'll feel hopeful that you can now set goals and surpass them.
Through positive self-talk you will be able to set long and short-term goals for yourself. And when you use affirmations, you'll have accessible tools to help you push yourself further than ever before. Learning to quiet negativity with positive thoughts is a great move toward setting and attaining future goals with ease.
Three Tips For Positive Self-Talk
- Make your affirmations visual. Print them out or even make little postcards with positive quotes on and pin them around your workspace. Make your computer wallpaper a positive affirmation. Create a board on Pinterest where you can pin positive affirmations and inspirational quotes. Start by pinning some items from mine. You’ll find it here.
- Re-frame the negative affirmations you’ve always believed. Maybe you weren’t academic and therefore never thought of yourself as a high achiever at school. Replace “I am not an academic high achiever,” with “My skill set is based in practical, real world skills and resourcefulness.”
- Read positive, inspirational books, blogs and articles to 're-set' your inner dialogue. I strongly suggest you start with The Greatness Guide, by Robin Sharma.
So go set some goals, and stick to them this time round.
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